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Word of the Week #WotW

I missed last week, it was Nana Windows’ funeral on Friday, and words didn’t arrive.

It was a wonderful service, not only in my mind, I worried about putting too much pressure on the hubby- choosing the type of service, where, if religious- reading and hymns- there are so many decisions to make, which we weren’t prepared for.

We were fortunate, our Reverend made it all possible, and despite knowing how much she likes to be prepared and organised, when I approached her minutes before the service to let her know the hubby wanted to read the prayers the little people had written during Messy Pentecost, she made it happen with grace, and it was perfect.

The hubby’s cousin wrote and made the most perfect ‘Eulogy’ – even that word seems wrong, she described Vera perfectly, and it seemed everything came together.

And as our life had been focused on the funeral, so this week it still feels we are in limbo.

I haven’t really felt like blogging. I haven’t had anything to say. But think if I don’t start, I might stop.

The hubby is keeping himself busy. Our garden fence has been painted, little jobs around the house are getting done. He’s putting up with my ‘to-do’ lists, which he’s never appreciated before. In turn, I’ve finally finished painting my office, I’ve built flat pack furniture and potted plants. We move forward together.

Yesterday was our 5th wedding anniversary, and we found a way to appreciate it. It was odd, my parents are away and so, for the first time, it was just us.

And in contrast to the melancholy, there is a pace to be held, CM has received a letter inviting her to make her Beavers Promise, and because I like to think no-one reads these posts, I have become an auntie!!! My children have a cousin!!! There may be the small matter of 6,000 miles, but what’s that when you’re family?

And work, is picking up. Everything is rebuilding after the 12months of HR ‘stuff’, I’m beginning to get to do the bits of the job I enjoy again rather than spend hours dealing with… I get to move on, and there is news, there is opportunity to create change, to turn frustrations into action, not without its own frustrations, but to change with baggage or to not change at all…. the choice has created energy, energy because I might be able to make things better.

And so, for all of this, I think there is only one word. What this week has created, and what we continue to need to move forward.
Word of the Week

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    Beth Twinderelmo
    May 22, 2015 at 08:02

    its a strange time after the funeral I find. When they pass away you then find yourself busy organising the funeral and wake and then after it that’s when the loss hits you. Take it easy and if you don’t want to blog – don’t. We will all be here when you’re ready xxxx #wotw
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      Debbie
      May 23, 2015 at 00:05

      It’s such a new experience as well, which further adds to the distress, there’s no rulebook. Thank you for reading and such kind words. xx

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    Stephanie
    May 22, 2015 at 12:23

    Funerals can be a great celebration of life but afterwards it can feel empty as you think what now, take care and happy anniversary – hope is a great #wotw
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      Debbie
      May 23, 2015 at 00:04

      Thank you- I think that’s exactly it. Thank you for your kind words. x

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    The Reading Residence
    May 22, 2015 at 14:36

    Hope is a powerful word to choose, and so fitting for your week. I am glad that the funeral went well, but I do know the limbo feeling you talk about and it;s no wonder you struggled to find the words and blog. Lovely news about your newest addition, and nice for the kids to have a cousin, albeit a few thousand miles away! Thanks for sharing with #WotW x
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      Debbie
      May 23, 2015 at 00:04

      It does feel that there is a full circle, that we can celebrate new life. x

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    Kim Carberry
    May 22, 2015 at 19:41

    A very fitting word to choose….
    Thinking of you and your family.
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      Debbie
      May 23, 2015 at 00:02

      Thank you x Your words are appreciated.

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    Katie
    May 22, 2015 at 23:04

    Aah lovely news on becoming an auntie and happy anniversary. Sounds like things are on the up! Xx
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      Debbie
      May 23, 2015 at 00:02

      Thank you. It is wonderful to have stepping stones to show the way xx

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    Cheryl | TimeToCraft
    May 22, 2015 at 23:50

    What a great word. A word that moves mountains and keeps us going when we need it most. Congrats on becoming an Auntie for the first time. I’m sure your children are going to love the new addition. There is always Skype. #Wotw
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    Merlinda Little (@pixiedusk)
    May 24, 2015 at 09:09

    Hope is such a nice word to have in a week that you said goodbye to a love one. I am sorry for your lost. And congratulations for being a new Aunt. #wotw
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    Karen
    May 24, 2015 at 09:41

    A lovely word and a lovely post. Times such as these are never easy. Congratulations on the new member of your family. Hugs to you all x

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